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Article from Heal My Life Christian Inner Healing Prayer Therapy Seminar Notes © © George Hartwell M.Sc., 2002

Best Practices in Prayer / Better Practices in prayer © George Hartwell M.Sc. 2002

I am going to introduce you to two models of prayer that I am happy for you to use. As an alternative to controlling situations and people I introduce the "Job Interview Prayer." As a way of affirming Biblical promises in listening prayer I introduce "Confirming a Biblical Promise." In terms of prayers of protection I suggest a format for one's morning prayer to pray protection for oneself and others.

First, let me review the five practices in prayer to avoid - see Prayer Guidelines. One is using prayer to control God. Two is using prayer to control people. Three is using prayer to control situations. Four is using prayer to harm or destroy people or people's property. Five is prayer that focuses too much attention on Satan, evil or the demonic.

Don't think of prayer as pleading with God to do something that we want. Instead think of yourself as a partner - in cooperation with God. As a partner with God in seeing His will be done on earth you will pray in concert with His will by listening for His guidance and waiting for His inspiration. Think of yourself as God's ambassador.

Do not use prayer to control other people. Instead of praying for specific changes in a person's life or character pray more generally. For details see DIFFICULT PEOPLE. God respects our freedom. We need to do so as well.

Do not pray for specific outcomes in situations like a job interview, a school test, a crucial game. Don't pray that the person will get the job, ace the test or win the game. Instead pray for the state of mind or attitude for the person in these situations. Then leave the outcome to God. See "Job Interview Prayer."

The second general direction to avoid is using prayer to harm or destroy people or property. Don't call down fire on psychics and palm readers, for example. Remember what Jesus said about the wrong spirit when the Sons of Thunder wanted to call down fire on some Samaritan villages that rejected Jesus.

The third is prayer that focuses too much attention on Satan, evil or the demonic. For example, I recommend against use of a prayer of protection that names Satan or in which you bind evil forces. For a suggested prayer of protection see: Morning Prayer and Listening Time.

 Leanne Payne, Judson Cornwall and John Paul Jackson all have warned against the prayer that focuses on Satan. Leanne Payne and John Paul Jackson found that binding principalities and powers does not provide protection - it attracts attack! Judson Cornwall learned that interrupting a worship service to bind evil powers actually attracted demons to the worship service - which loved the attention. I recommend against prayers that use the concept of 'binding.' I CONSIDER EVERY FORM OF PRAYER THAT BINDS SATAN OR PRINCIPALITIES OVER TERRITORIES AS EXTREMELY DANGEROUS UNDER ALL CIRCUMSTANCES. RUN AWAY FROM PEOPLE THAT DO THAT. AVOID GROUPS THAT DO THAT. Details in the PROTECTION seminar. Instead when one senses an evil spirit pray for the opposite spirit. Focus on positive objectives.


Job Interview Prayer © George Hartwell M.Sc.

The Job Interview Prayer method will also work for a school test, public speaking or athletic performance.

The idea of the prayer is to have the right attitude rather than bring about the desired outcome.  Having the right attitude or spirit can't be wrong.

My philosophy is to avoid controlling God, people or situations in prayer.  I want prayer to respect rather than manipulate people's free will; to honor that than try to control God and to let God control the outcome of our obedience.  We leave the results to God.

First step is of the job interview prayer is to describe the attitude that you want to have as you participate in this situation.

Second is to pray. Pray like this: "Father be with me in this situation. Help me to have a positive attitude in this situation. Help me to &ldots; (describe the attitude). By your Spirit help me to picture myself in this situation in the right spirit."

Third: picture yourself in this situation managing this situation with the attitude that you have defined.

Read more about Job Interview Prayer. Interview Prayer


Job Interview Prayer

How a Biblical Promise becomes a Heart Promise by © George Hartwell M.Sc.

Listening prayer Therapy brings a new approach to claiming Biblical Promises. Rather than just assuming rights to any and every Biblical promise, we ask God if this applies to us, in this situation, at this time.

To claim any Biblical promise without permission would be what Jesus meant by testing God - Matthew 4:7. The devil gave him a two Biblical promises: "He shall give his angels charge over you" - Psalm 91:11 and " In their hands they shall bear you up, lest you dash your foot against a stone" - Psalm 91:12.

If Jesus couldn't just claim those promises, and throw himself down from the high point of the temple, then neither can we. We can't presume that any promise applies to us in our present situation at the present time. We can't 'write our own ticket with God', as some have wrongly taught. Faith of the Heart


Prayer of the Heart


To avoid faith presumption we need humility before God. We can't force God to do something because it is written. Who do we think we are? We need to ask.

In the mouth of two or three witnesses a fact is established. God calls His people to respond to His written word and His voice. We read the Bible and we listen to his voice. It is in listening to "his very word spoken to me" that written promises change to living words meant for me personally.

As your personal coach in Listening Prayer, I would discuss a particular promise with you. Does it apply? Do you fulfill the conditions? If the written promise seems to apply then we seek a confirmation through listening prayer. How do we do this? We put the promise to God and ask Him: "Does this apply to me, now, in my life?" Then we take time to listen.

God can confirm in many ways. For some people a voice is heard. Some may receive an inner thought. Some may remember a Biblical verse - but it comes from God personally to them. For some it may a song. Some people have a significant inner feeling. Some people have a sense of something.

It may take some interpretation, some discussion with your coach (counsellor, therapist, spiritual director) to clarify this. My question is always: "How does this feel?" The heart senses 'faith of the heart.'  The heart receives faith assurance. It is felt. If God is confirming the promise it will be `felt within.

With the confirmation received, we need to thank God. It may be wise to take time to let the feeling of confirmation sink in. Picture what God is saying. Give thanks.

How to Pray for Protection

© George Hartwell M.Sc.

When you pray for protection let your language and images to be positive and focused on God. (Do not name Satan or try to bind Satan or get demon focused.)


In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, I sign myself with the sign of the cross.

I remember that I am sealed into the New Covenant by the blood of the lamb of God that takes away the sins of the world.

I asked to be filled and protected with the glory light of heaven and to radiate God's light in all I do and to all that I meet this day. Prayer of Protection


Prayer of Protection

May I be so filled with God's holiness that heaven abides within me and no sin, sickness, bitterness, doubt or fear finds any place to lodge in me. May love, faith, humility, courage, wisdom, joy, peace and righteousness, fill me and radiate through me so that God's Kingdom comes around me today.

Signed, sealed and protected by God and hidden in Christ I know that nothing can separate me from God's love, joy and peace this day. God will never leave me and I will never leave him. I am His and He is mine. He is my Father and I am His beloved. May He delight in me while I delight in His presence all this day.

Praying Protection for Family © George Hartwell M.Sc. 2002

Pray for immediate family - those on your heart. Use a shortened version of a prayer of protection, such as: "I ask (name) to be signed, sealed and protected by God's presence so that nothing can get through to hurt them in Jesus name."

A longer version of a prayer of protection would go like this: "I sign (Name) with the sign of the cross, seal and cover them with the blood of Jesus and surround them with God's glory light and presence so nothing can get through to hurt them in Jesus' name. Amen." Pray Potection for others


Prayer of Protection for Family and Others

Pray for immediate family - those on your heart. Use a shortened version of a prayer of protection, such as: "I ask (name) to be signed, sealed and protected by God's presence so that nothing can get through to hurt them in Jesus name."

A longer version of a prayer of protection would go like this: "I sign (Name) with the sign of the cross, seal and cover them with the blood of Jesus and surround them with God's glory light and presence so nothing can get through to hurt them in Jesus' name. Amen."

The Prayer Series

1. Spiritual Warfare
2. Job Interview Prayer
3. Safe Prayers of Protection
4.  Prayer is a Life-style
5. Faith of the Heart
6. How to pray for difficult people
7. How to pray in a personal crisis
8. How to pray for physical Healing
9. How to break Curses


1. The Secret of Prayer © George Hartwell M.Sc. 2002

A new model of prayer is being revealed to the Body of Christ. In the new way one does not pray whatever one wishes. One prays God's will, lead by the Spirit.

Prayer is not to control or manipulate God. Therefore, you do not pray at will. You do not pray your own will. Because the human soul, including the will is fallen; is out of touch with God's Holy Spirit.

Prayer born out of the human will, apart from being lead by the Spirit, is of the soul; is of the flesh. Jesus says that "Flesh can give birth only to flesh"- John 3:6.

The cross must be applied. The human soul comes under the guidance and control of the Holy Spirit. Our resources, plans and will become subject to God.

Those that would be lead by God must learn to listen and submit to what they hear. This new wisdom concludes that I will not pray what I do not sense to be the will of God. New Model of Prayer


New Model of Prayer

We learn to be still. "Be still and know that I am God" - Psalm 46:10. 

I still myself before praying. Some people are left wondering because I said I was going to be pray and then silence. "Did you want me to pray?" they ask.

 "No, I am just stopping to listen before I pray."

2. The new model and prayers for healing  © George Hartwell M.Sc. 2002

How does this new model of prayer apply to prayer for healing? For one thing it means we do not assume that we know how to pray. All the arguments that God's will is to heal are good and strong arguments. Of course God's very nature is life and health and in His presence there will be no illness or disease. We still need to listen. We listen of God to know how and if to pray. We submit our wills to God. We don't presume - we ask.

Remember the voice of the Father to the disciples: "This is my beloved Son. Listen to him." Mark 9:7, Matthew 17:5, Luke 9:35. We don't assume we know how to pray. We listen.

In the old model prayer assailed heaven. We plead for what we want. For example, when my mother was in intensive care we tried to unite in prayer as a family and vision her well. We tried to get more people praying. We wanted to get in the big names in prayer. But God had been telling me for several days that mother was dying. Praying for Healing - New Model


Praying for Healing - New Model

I remember the first time I went into the hospital and was headed down the corridor to mother's room.  Still down the hallway on the way to the room, I felt deeply overwhelmed with grief based on a deep knowing in my heart that mother was dying. This feeling was so strong that I wanted a place to cry - to turn aside to grieve. Soon I did see my mother in her room - in a coma.  Ten days later she died. 

God's message to my spirit was clear - I felt the grief  - mother is dying. My spirit knew that this was "sickness is unto death."  My head wanted otherwise.  My local minister had 'prophesied' that this was not sickness unto death.  I still participated in desperate prayer of the old model.  This old model prayer was an attempt to twist God's arm and avoid the loss of mother.  My head and my will were resisting what my spirit already knew.  Mother was dying.

God allowed us to struggle thus with the reality until, the night my younger brother John and I abandoned the vigil at the hospital, she died. That morning as we got the news two doves perched on the phone line in front of the family home. My sister Janice heard heavenly music that evening at her place.  I believe God was saying to me: "Be at peace.  I am here.  I am in this.  This is my will."

Death and grief is confusing and painful enough. My family and I deepened the confusion by insisting that we could manipulate God in prayer. By doing this we left family members in confusion.  We left questions in people's mind about whether God listens to prayer (old model).  Does God care? Martha, convinced by her visions for mother, began to doubt that she heard from God. The old models of prayer allowed for manipulating heaven; for prayers as pleading, for attempting to control God. The new model involves closer communion with God.

Isn't it time to apply the secret of prayer - of listening to God - to prayers for healing - for listening to God.

Here is my guideline: Do not pray for healing until you have heard from God.  Listen.  What is God's will?  What word, what scripture is God speaking to you?  What do the visionaries among you see? 

This is not time to say waht you think God should be saying, or to recite memorized promises.  Really dig in a get a sense of what God is saying (for the Sensors), get God's very word spoken to you (for the audio prophetic listeners), catch God's vision so that you can speak what God is doing.  Remember Jesus who ONLY did what he say the Father doing.

3. The Secret of Humility in Prayer © George Hartwell M.Sc. 2002

1.  When praying for others for healing say something that indicates an attitude of humility rather than arrogance in prayer. You might say: " God can use me to bring healing to you. However, it is not my prayer that is important but God at work. God may use this time but remember that it is God at work. There is nothing magic or special about what I pray. Pay attention to what God is doing and let me know what you experience."

2.  Listen before you pray. Wait upon God. Jesus said: "I only do what I see the Father doing." Be the same.

3.  Speak as God leads. As the words become clear in your mind - pray them or speak them. If you see or sense something - pray or speak that. Humility in Prayer


Humility in Prayer


4. Evangelizing the Heart© George Hartwell M.Sc. 2002

Often inner healing is a potential that can, with gentle leadership, accompany physical healing. You will notice that when the person realizes that they have been healed they become emotional. There may be tears. Pay attention to this moment! They are being touched personally and emotionally by what God is doing. Their heart is being touched. This can be a moment for "evangelization of the heart" as the Sandfords call it.

Your part is to get them to talk about it. Ask them what they are feeling and what they are thinking. Your job is to get them to articulate the truth - the new heart belief - that God is revealing to them at this moment. You find out what the revealed truth is in this positive emotion. You work to consolidate this truth, this revelation, this rhema, in their heart. Consolidate this new belief by getting it spoken and having them thank God for it.

Why does someone have tears when God heals them? Because they can let go of their fear that God doesn't love them or want to heal them. Look for them to say that they realize that God loves them or that God really does want to heal them. You can reinforce that they are loved and precious to God. This is good news - a mini-sermon - brought on by God's presence and love revealed through physical healing. Go ahead. Evangelize the heart when it is ripe!

Times of emotion are times when our heart is open

One of the principles of Listening Prayer Therapy: Times of emotion are times of heart openness and can be used as times of belief consolidation or change. When the heart is open, in times of emotion, messages are written deeply into the heart.

In the example of praying for healing, a person is emotional when they sense God's healing touch. The Listening Prayer Therapist knows that doubts about God's love can be dissolving at this time. It is an important time to consolidate God's truth and truth about God. The heart is open. TOP

A Few Ways to Pray for Healing

In a Healing Service© George Hartwell M.Sc. 2002

A speaker from England taught the following a few years ago at an Anglican Renewal Conference in Toronto. The congregation is at a healing service. Those who want healing are asked to stand up and get together with someone else who is standing. They are to pray for one another. At the end of the service there will be an opportunity for to go forward for more prayer.

Each person who prays for another is limited to one simple short prayer. They are to bless what the Holy Spirit wants to do in that person. That is all. "I bless what the Holy Spirit wants to do in you, in Jesus name. Amen." Notice the humility in this simple prayer. We are yielding to the Holy Spirit.

What happens with such a short simple prayer is that 50% of the people prayed for receive healing.

Another result is that those who go forward for prayer after the service are usually able to ask and receive prayer at greater depth than usual. TOP

Intercessory Praise© George Hartwell M.Sc. 2002

The technique is a method of praying for another who wants healing. This involves engaging with the person who wants healing by opening your heart to them as they share their need.

They are talking to you about their need. They share their need with you. You ask them to state what they need from God. "I want to be healed."

As a person who cares you feel for this person. As an as an intercessor you may receive a burden to pray for this person. You have engaged with the need, now engage with the answer.

 Engage God by praising Him. Move into praise and worship. Continue this until the burden lifts. One might call this "Praise Intercession." TOP

Peace to Receive© George Hartwell M.Sc. 2002

God's life is constantly being poured out upon us. This life includes God's healing. Like the sunshine, God's life and healing is always being poured out upon us.

A flower concealed from the sunshine receives no sunlight. Our body and spirit can be blocked from receiving God's light, life and healing. Anxiety and tension becomes the block that shuts out God's healing. Therefore anxiety and tension will produce illness in body, soul and spirit.

The answer is peace - God's peace. God's peace heals us and makes us strong because only the heart at rest can receive of His life-flow. Peace allows us to receive God's life.

So I pray for the one who wants healing to receive God's peace. I usually ask them to be still or to picture something that reminds them of peace and let me do the praying. I pray that they would receive God's peace. I paint the picture of the plant opening to sunshine.

People like this way of receiving healing because there is no pressure, no expectations, no attempt to create faith - just entering peace to receive. TOP


My Persistent Listening Project© George Hartwell M.Sc. 2002

There is power in God's very word spoken to us. The spoken word is God's word being spoken now. The spoken word is God's will here and now. It is God's spoken word that is living and active and effective.

The way to hear God's word is similar to needing God's peace to receive healing. We may need to have times of quiet and stillness so that we can hear God's voice.

God also speaks through His written word. One may want to spend time reading and mediating upon his written word.

To receive God's word on healing you may want to read scriptures related to healing; read books written about healing and listen to tapes about healing.

I believe God honours regular daily input. So I spend mornings reading books like Andrew Murray' s "Divine Healing." I looked up scriptures on healing. When a particular thought or verse seemed powerful to me, I wrote it out in coloured felt pen on a blank page and put it in a three ring binder.

Then each day I would review and meditate upon the words that I had in my binder. The binder got quite full. I had almost 50 pages.


It happened about five years after my life was committed to God. At that time I was dealing with duodenal ulcers. I took medication for this and had been told that I needed an operation. This was well before much of my own inner healing and before I knew about alternatives to medication. What I did each day was to read a chapter of Andrew Murray's book "Divine Healing."  Suddenly one day I had such a strong sense of being healed. I received a deep feeling of assurance that I was healed. And I was. All pain was gone. I went off the medications.

But I was under a lot of stress - trying to complete my masters thesis. Unwisely, I stopped that practice of daily reading Andrew Murray's book on  healing. Within a few weeks the pain was back. My ulcer was back! I went back on medication.

I learned two things from this experience. First of all that God's healing comes through when My mind and heart have become saturated with His Word on healing. Second, that My faith can easily dwindle if I fail to keep saturated. As faith dwindles my disease may return.

I need to feed the faith of my heart with the bread of God's Word daily.  I needed fresh manna everyday. Bread goes stale and faith depends on fresh bread.


During the summer as I waited on God, I changed: First of all, I developed a hunger to hear from God. 

Second, I found that my feelings were close to the surface. I was closer to tears. I was touched more easily. On reflection I saw this as good - that I had become more available for relationship with God and others because my heart was open. Could this be the broken and contrite heart that God does not despise?

Third, I found that I had a greater desire for this closeness to God than for my healing. I was developing a hunger for God and this felt good. I had found something more precious than healing. 

Months later the healing did begin to come in an unexpected way. God was in it. I am now regaining energy, lung capacity and my zest for life! TOP

The Crafted Prayer Project© George Hartwell M.Sc. 2002

Graham Cooke wrote a prayer to establish his heart during a time of pain, betrayal and brokenness. Completely removed from a place of ministry to digging graves in Southampton, Graham struggled with bitterness and despair.

God had him write out a prayer just like David the psalmist did. He would describe what was happening and then what he wanted God to do in his heart during this time. He asked God to use the trial to chisel off his rough edges. He asked for wisdom, comfort and encouragement.

So write a prayer. Sorry. It is not that easy. Remember prayer is not about controlling or manipulating God. How can you write a prayer that does not force your will and desire on God?

The answer is listening to God and staying close to scripture. A group can listen and share what they get. One can craft together the words and images they you receive or that others have given to you. That is where the crafting comes in. You write based on what you hear. You craft your prayer.

The point is to be praying God's will. When we ask according to His will we know that we receive what we ask for.

Graham uses the crafted prayer on a daily basis to sing, shout or say his prayer. He prays nothing else but this prayer unless there is added revelation. He now prays until something happens.